tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post8233607097971571439..comments2024-03-15T00:27:48.794-07:00Comments on Retire In Style Blog Too: Will You Make the Choice or Will It be Made For You?Barbara Torrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09618291241661047482noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-52845635044162366542015-12-28T12:03:06.247-08:002015-12-28T12:03:06.247-08:00RJ, You have the right mindset I think. Honestly, ...RJ, You have the right mindset I think. Honestly, in spite of what I write I do not worry that much about the future. But I do try to get a feel for what my choices with be when the time comes. As we all know the future may bring what we DON'T expect. I see that truth all the time.<br><br>I am assuming that your wife is ill. I send my best. God bless.Barbara Torrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05114209481329773753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-58261874766821875092015-12-28T11:59:51.592-08:002015-12-28T11:59:51.592-08:00In many cases we just have to wait it out. If the ...In many cases we just have to wait it out. If the parent is unwilling to make a change it is not possible in many cases to drag them kicking and screaming out of their house. Barbara Torrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05114209481329773753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-2114835170387647982015-12-28T11:58:41.729-08:002015-12-28T11:58:41.729-08:00Thank you Sally. My heart aches when I hear a chil...Thank you Sally. My heart aches when I hear a child say that their parent is unwilling to take the help offered and make the change. Unfortunately that choice can ruin no only the parent's life but the child's too. I wish you much luck and happiness.Barbara Torrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05114209481329773753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-44330204092021055712015-12-28T11:57:12.210-08:002015-12-28T11:57:12.210-08:00I have always suggested that a visit to the parent...I have always suggested that a visit to the parents is a good way to do that "assessment". We can always put on a good show for a few hours or even several days. But in the end the truth will come out. When it does, we need to be willing to hear what the children have to say.<br>Barbara Torrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05114209481329773753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-66817861470446077352015-12-28T06:00:27.074-08:002015-12-28T06:00:27.074-08:00Barb, as usual a very notable post here. The only ...Barb, as usual a very notable post here. The only people who will take care of my wife and I are my wife and I. We are childless and have very limited "other" family. Since my wife is seven years older than me I am trying to let her live out her wishes to remain where she has been for 15+ years now. When she passes it will probably be up to me to determine when things personally change. I am already looking at the options... I just pray I keep my wits about me to make wise decisionsRJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10459292685594810388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-57998895200658796282015-12-27T16:30:23.462-08:002015-12-27T16:30:23.462-08:00My mother in law, who is 88, waited too long. We ...My mother in law, who is 88, waited too long. We begged her to move - she had a split level house, with stairs everywhere she needed to go, and had fallen multiple times (plus had bad arthritis in her knee). Finally, her health left her no choice - on top of nearly running out of money due to bad financial decisions. I hope I learn the lessons she's taught me. You are so right.Alanahttp://ramblinwitham.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-91012538259904305782015-12-27T13:51:12.937-08:002015-12-27T13:51:12.937-08:00"Change is the substance that keeps us alive ..."Change is the substance that keeps us alive and moving. Without it we would crumble in our chairs." This is really the essence of what will create healthy aging. I love this quote. I think of my mother and how she is "crumbling in her chair." It is her choice, but I don't necessarily think it is a good one. I hope to spare my children making these difficult decisions by making them for myself when the time comes. You speak truth.Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-81417334981125026002015-12-27T10:57:53.640-08:002015-12-27T10:57:53.640-08:00Yep. We had a conversation just this week with our...Yep. We had a conversation just this week with our oldest daughter after she "assessed" that we are still fully ourselves. But we'll continue to have the conversation each year.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6306252283429139894.post-86965394654457541152015-12-27T10:57:42.010-08:002015-12-27T10:57:42.010-08:00Yep. We had a conversation just this week with our...Yep. We had a conversation just this week with our oldest daughter after she "assessed" that we are still fully ourselves. But we'll continue to have the conversation each year.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.com