Friday, September 25, 2020

Snowbirds...? The Choices Are Shrinking and the Voice of Reason is Small...

 As we age (how many times have I said that?) I find that the things I thought were tasty or interesting don't bring the same emotions. I think I should still like that beef stroganoff I made for a party when I was 30...it would still be delicious...but no. 

I actually made it this summer and there was something missing. What was that? Garlic? Better sour cream? I do not know. Yet, there it was, a big bowl of beef sitting in a bowl with no one to eat it but my poor husband. I know I wasn't going to. Sigh.

It seems that it was at that point I or we began to question everything...where we lived, how we ate and what we had expected of life, our children or even our friends. What did WE want?



Oregon Summer Backyard

Path to our front door...Oregon

Being a snowbird is one of the great joys of our life. We have a townhouse in Arizona and, when we go there, it is like going on vacation. My husband golfs and I write, cook and socialize. We have friends and continue to make more. It is a very good life. 

But as the years go by, I want to come back to Oregon more often and my husband wants to go to Arizona and stay. 

So it came up in the discussion the other evening at cocktail hour. Should we sell our Home here on Harewood Place as well as our Arizona townhouse and buy a big house in Oregon? Or should we leave Oregon all together and move lock stock and barrel to Arizona?

Arizona at it's best!

I know! Both of those choices are a dream. We could rent somewhere in either location and spend a few months. What would be a good choice.

Here is the bit that might throw the plan all off...my husband will be 83 in February and I will be 79 in November. If I were 20 year younger and I heard of someone our age even talking about these big choices, I would have had a fit. Aren't those people ready to go to assisted living? I would have thought to myself.

We are not going to do either...or at least I don't think we are. It might be foolish and unreasonable. Wouldn't you agree?

BUT...there is another way, a place in the middle that might work. Now it is up to us to decided because we actually are allowed to do that still. The opportunity for change is shrinking as the years pass. If you are old you know what I am saying.

Any ideas?

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Link: How to Snowbird and do it right! 






Sunday, September 20, 2020

Old Coots Giving FREE Advice...DON’T DROP THE BABY!!!


Yes, I am an old cooterette...I know stuff and boy am I willing to share. I always begin with "Did you know...?" New podcast is up. 

New Podcast: DON’T DROP THE BABY!

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Tuesday, September 15, 2020

Hiding Our Light Under a Basket


Do you hide your light under a basket? In fact, are you so unobtrusive that no one really knows how you feel or what you believe...and is that a good thing?

Living as we do today in a world where everyone is letting "it all hang out" staying below the radar becomes increasingly hard. The thing is, we are deciding if we care about another person based on their political beliefs. We make the assumption (bigoted in many ways) that if a person is a part of a group that they embrace everything that the leaders of that group propose. Is that fair? Really, we need to stop and think.

Being open minded and staying quiet is very difficult when a group of people want us to all be socialist and another locks children in cages. What happened to the middle? What happened to being disagreeing graciously and accepting that we don't know it all and never will?

So I propose to you that if you, like I am doing today, sit down and write what you are and what you believe, you will find that the middle ground is not so bad and diplomacy works a lot better than anything else. Let your light shine but in such a way that you allow for other's opinions to be valid. Help...just help.


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Monday, August 10, 2020

Thinking about What We Can Do to Keep our Freedoms SAFE!

Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves; and under the rule of a just God, cannot long retain it. Abraham Lincoln

Today I did what I had been thinking about doing for several weeks. I added a Rep. John Lewis quote to my sidebar. It should resonate is everyone

"Freedom is not a state; it is an act. It is not some enchanted garden perched high on a distant plateau where we can finally sit down and rest. Freedom is the continuous action we all must take, and each generation must do its part to create an even more fair, more just society.” (From his 2017 memoir, "Across That Bridge: A Vision for Change and the Future of America")

It reminded me of that President John F. Kennedy quote from his first inauguration:

"Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country."

They both were a call to action for the ordinary man. Remembering the inspiration of JFK leaves me wondering...will the American people, those people that are held against their will to a different standard of behavior, will those people understand what it means that "freedom" is not a state. Those of us that were born to a life of freedom within the law are indeed lucky...but it is also our duty, not just theirs, to remember that freedom can be lost. It is not a state of being. It is an act and we need to ask not what the freedom can do for us, we need to ask what we need to do to keep is safe.

Just a thought!


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Thursday, August 6, 2020

Books Made for the Movies (up for grabs)

The question is: Do you see the characters in the books that you read? Are they real  in your mind or do you struggle with that? In some cases it seems to me that the person the author is describing is someone I know. Do you suppose authors do that and we can read between the lines? I think they do.

So it is not surprising that I have read several books that need to be made into a movie and I want to pick out the cast of actors that appear in said movie. Wouldn't that be so much fun to do?

Many years ago I read a book called The Straight Man by Richard Russo. I think that it may have made me laugh more than any book I have ever read. Here is the short blurb that Amazon posted about the book:

William Henry Devereaux, Jr., is the reluctant chairman of the English department of a badly underfunded college in the Pennsylvania rust belt.  Devereaux's reluctance is partly rooted in his character--he is a born anarchist--and partly in the fact that his department is more savagely divided than the Balkans.  

In the course of a single week, Devereaux will have his nose mangled by an angry colleague, imagine his wife is having an affair with his dean, wonder if a curvaceous adjunct is trying to seduce him with peach pits, and threaten to execute a goose on local television.  All this while coming to terms with his philandering father, the dereliction of his youthful promise, and the ominous failure of certain vital body functions.  In short, Straight Man is classic Russo—side-splitting, poignant, compassionate, and unforgettable.

The thing is I am really surprised that someone did not pick this one up and hire the cast from Mash. But too much time has passed and some of the members of that cast have passed away. Darn. Time has taken its toll.

I have read the Pulitzer Prize winning book by Russo, Empire Falls as well as The Risk Pool and Bridge of Sighs. You can never go wrong when you get your hands on a book by him.

The second book that comes to mind in Last Day for Rob Rhino by Kathleen O'Donnell. This is another book that is somehow not complete with out the actors to fill in the rolls. Rob Rhino (Danny Devito) is a short eccentric porn star/stripper and owner of a strip club at the edge of town as I remember it and his counter part, Clair, (Lisa Kudrow or Shirley McClean) is a neurotic widow with a spectacular load of drugs in her purse. Amazon blurb:

Claire’s a rich widow on a mission, who partakes with abandon from the pharmacy stored in her Prada purse. Rob’s an aging reality show celebrity.

Stuck on the same flight, bound for the same eccentric town, she hates him on sight. She thinks she knows all there is to know about him but is dying to find out more. He’s disinterested but somehow still sees right through her. But they’ve both got big problems. Hers is in the Louis Vuitton carryon in the overhead. His is in his pants.


To Claire’s dismay, Rob turns up everywhere she goes, yet they form the unlikeliest of friendships. He cares for her in ways she’s never known before. He could be the best thing in her life—or the worst.

In a place full of secrets, including their own, they help each other find answers they didn’t even know they were looking for, yet some questions linger. What happened to Rob’s first wife? What happened to Claire’s husband? Will they live through the answers?


This is Kathleen O'Donnell's first but two other's followed and can be found on Amazon. I read it several years ago and I still think about that book and a possible movie someday. It is almost as though it was written for a movie take off.

So, have you ever done that...pick the cast as you were reading a book? I am interested.

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Thursday, July 16, 2020

Keeping It In Perspective...Podcast Information

I am going to talk about The Little Black Dot on my Podcast today. When I Grow up needs may attention so blogging becomes secondary. However sometimes seeing things in print help a lot. The story and thoughts today will be related to how big and wonderful life is when we don't focus on the Little Black Dot and let ourselves look at the whole piece of paper. I hope you like my voice and my stories!

In an inspirational blog post put up back in 2012 the black dot appeared in a story told by "Steven" on a website called Motivation.  In the story, a group needing to see a bigger future for their community was inspired by a simple black dot in the middle of a blank piece of paper.
During her presentation, the speaker took a large piece of white paper and made a small black dot at the center with a marking pen. Then she held the paper up before the group and asked them what they saw.

One person quickly replied, “I see a black dot.”

“Okay, what else do you see?”

Others joined in agreement: “A black dot.”

“Don’t you see anything besides the dot?” – she asked.

A resounding “No” came from the audience.

“What about the sheet of paper?” – asked the speaker. “I am sure you have all seen it”, she said, “But you have chosen to overlook it.”

“In life, we also tend to overlook and take for granted many wonderful things that we have or happen around us and focus our attention and energy on [the] small dot...."
Have a wonderful day!



Friday, July 3, 2020

New Podcast and Living in Isolation

I'm not quitting...not just yet. Probably never. So there you have it!

So this is what I have decided to do. I have to decided to start a podcast. It is called When I Grow Up! The name came to me because I do say...a lot..."when I grow up I want to be like you!" I have said this to elderly women golfers, talented artist and well educated people with talent and vision. 
In this world we live in today we need to take heart from those people that have lived this type of life forever. Housewives, retired couples and of course, those people that chose to buy a desert island. In some cases those choices were by choice but in others,

The podcast will feature things that happen to me personally, travel, books and always, always my thoughts on a variety of things. I will post a small blurb about each podcast here on my blog here with some insight that might help you decided to spend a little time with me. The podcast will generally be around 5-7 minutes, sometimes less. Not much time.

I have create three episodes so far. Most are very short...the one today went on for 10 minted but I think has some good information. It is about living in isolation...something i for one am very familiar with. Listen to my thoughts after you leave this blog post. Come back and leave a comment. I am interested in hearing from you.

In the mean time I am interested if you have any thoughts on what we should do to fill the days (and nights) as we learn to live within our own skin.

Have a wonderful day!

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