As we age (how many times have I said that?) I find that the things I thought were tasty or interesting don't bring the same emotions. I think I should still like that beef stroganoff I made for a party when I was 30...it would still be delicious...but no.
I actually made it this summer and there was something missing. What was that? Garlic? Better sour cream? I do not know. Yet, there it was, a big bowl of beef sitting in a bowl with no one to eat it but my poor husband. I know I wasn't going to. Sigh.
It seems that it was at that point I or we began to question everything...where we lived, how we ate and what we had expected of life, our children or even our friends. What did WE want?
Being a snowbird is one of the great joys of our life. We have a townhouse in Arizona and, when we go there, it is like going on vacation. My husband golfs and I write, cook and socialize. We have friends and continue to make more. It is a very good life.
But as the years go by, I want to come back to Oregon more often and my husband wants to go to Arizona and stay.
So it came up in the discussion the other evening at cocktail hour. Should we sell our Home here on Harewood Place as well as our Arizona townhouse and buy a big house in Oregon? Or should we leave Oregon all together and move lock stock and barrel to Arizona?
|Arizona at it's best!|
I know! Both of those choices are a dream. We could rent somewhere in either location and spend a few months. What would be a good choice.
Here is the bit that might throw the plan all off...my husband will be 83 in February and I will be 79 in November. If I were 20 year younger and I heard of someone our age even talking about these big choices, I would have had a fit. Aren't those people ready to go to assisted living? I would have thought to myself.
We are not going to do either...or at least I don't think we are. It might be foolish and unreasonable. Wouldn't you agree?
BUT...there is another way, a place in the middle that might work. Now it is up to us to decided because we actually are allowed to do that still. The opportunity for change is shrinking as the years pass. If you are old you know what I am saying.